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It's Only the End if You Want it to Be

Jun 3 '12

The DC Encyclopedia is under the impression that Dick and Tarantula had a “tempestuous affair”

Seriously? SERIOUSLY?! I expect this kind of offensive nonsense from fans who don’t know any better, but not from an ENCYCLOPEDIA, published officially by the company, which is supposed to, y’know, provide people with ACTUAL ACCURATE INFORMATION.

DC. DC. I should not have to tell you this. Dick and Catalina did not have a “tempestuous affair”. They did not have ANY kind of affair, because the word “affair” implies some sort of mutual passion, which is simply not the case here. A “relationship” which consists of one of the parties raping the other and then repeatedly taking advantage of their emotional trauma can not in any sane universe be described as an affair, tempestuous or otherwise. WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU.

This is not a one-off incident. You may also be interested to learn that Ollie and Shado were “lovers”. Fascinating. Let’s see what Ollie’s actual lover, one Ms. Dinah Lance, has to say about that:

THANK YOU, Dinah. (Also, Babs sweetie I love you, but… this conversation is not your best moment. You should perhaps not be so quick to jump to conclusions when you don’t even have your facts straight enough to know that Shado is not Connor Hawke’s mother. I can’t really blame you because Tony Bedard acknowledged that this was his fault for trying to write like four books at once, but… *sigh*)

Okay. DC. Here is the deal. You cannot use words like “affair” and “lovers”, both of which CLEARLY imply a consensual relationship, to describe rape. You cannot. And I shouldn’t have to say this, either, but men can be raped. It’s true that female-on-male sexual assault is rare. But that doesn’t mean that when it DOES happen, it is somehow less serious or less traumatic or less “real”. Rape is rape. It’s not a gray area. It should not be TREATED like a gray area, and shame on you for treating it like one. A rapist is not a lover, in any sense of the word, under any circumstances. A rape is not an “affair”. If you are going to use sexual assault as a plotline, you have a responsibility to treat the issue with extreme care, respect, and accuracy. I… I am not seeing that here. I’m not seeing that at all.

I… I have more to say about this, about how this is so typical of our culture’s incredibly damaging views on masculinity and femininity and victimization, but I’m honestly having trouble finding the words right now because this just makes me SO ANGRY.