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Saw this somewhere else and felt the need to post it cause no one else ever really tells you this stuff
My mom never really noticed. She noticed when she was breast feeding my little brother and blood started coming out instead of milk.
My mom said she felt and saw a little lump in the shower. She was lucky enough she found it at stage 2
My mom had a mammogram. The radiologist thought the spots were just regular calcium deposits.
Turns out it was triple negative breast cancer that had spread to her lymph nods. Mastectomy, radiation and chemo saved her life.
This could SAVE a life.
All of this. My mother always got her mammogram screenings and even got ultrasounds but it wasn’t noticed until it had reached stage 2. Mastectomy, and now she’s in chemo, with radiation and pills coming after that. Don’t fuck around with breast cancer, just don’t.
Bisexuality Explained From a Bisexual’s Point of View
Inspired by a post I saw on katebishophawkeye’s blog.
1stepclosertobeingacrazycatlady:
I cannot believe Curvy Kate’s audacity to outright steal the work of a high school student for some insipid marketing message.
Shame on you, Curvy Kate. Shame on you.
Via: The Curvy Kate Facebook Page
Original image via: Rosea Posey
SIGNAL BOOST RIP THEM A NEW ONE TUMBLR!
I’m sorry to say it, but I like the ad more, mostly because it isn’t saying that you are a whore for wearing a short skirt. And doesn’t “asking for it” totally go against the whole anti-rape campaign that has taken over Tumblr. Granted I might be saying all this only because I can’t seem to find a cute skirt that would cover even the “flirty” part of my legs. Even my long ass “prudish” skirts ride up to a “cheeky” level.
Actually, I took the student’s work as a way to say that this kind of labeling is wrong. Maybe I’m wrong, but I thought the point of the project was to portray how people tend to view women by the length of the skirt they where.
Also, the AD still includes the word “prudish” which upsets me. I personally usually where skirts at that length.
^ I agree. I feel like the original was purposely calling attention to how stupid this way of thinking is, that we draw arbitrary lines about people’s skirt lengths and slap judgmental labels on them because of it. (And this is coming from someone who embraces religious modesty law.) In fact, if you click on the link to the original (above), the artist says exactly that:
“Working on this project really made me examine my own opinions, preconceptions and prejudices about “slutty” women and women who choose to cover all of their skin alike. I used to assume that all women who wore Hijabs were being oppressed, slut-shame, and look down on and judge any woman who didn’t express her sexuality in a way that I found appropriate.
I’d like to think I’m more open now.”
The ad, on the other hand, feels like it’s just taking these labels at face value. Which is not only plagiarism, it’s completely missing the point of the original piece. They purposely removed that ‘offensive’ labels (“whore”, “slut”, “asking for it”), and in doing so, they managed to erase the original meaning, being that the image is supposed to MAKE YOU THINK about these labels. Not ENDORSE them.
As for the fact that you wear skirts at the “prudish” length, Joy, so do I - and what of it? Calling women “prudes” (BTW, the term originally came from Old French, and meant “a good, virtuous woman” - it comes from the same root as ‘proud’) is just shaming us for not giving men what they feel they’re ‘entitled’ to. It’s as meaningless and offensive as telling a woman she’s “asking for it” if she wears a skirt that’s too short. Terms like ‘prude’ and ‘slut’ are flipsides of the same coin - the idea that a woman whose choices about sexuality don’t conform to some narrow standard needs to be shamed for it. And no matter where you fall on the “modesty” spectrum, that’s something we need to fight against. ALL women are deserving of respect.
Hi, just your local Mayan here reminding you the world isn’t ending tomorrow.
Also, that Mayans still exist.
And finally, that we have a language that is still spoken, and written, and that our science and other studies have developed with time and we’re not some stone age group of savages carving shit into rocks for all eternity just so some iztacchuatl will find it and tell us white jesus is gonna end the world when our calender stops working for her.
gringos impitzoyos.
:)
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This, ladies and gentlemen, is what you get when you stand up to a man who beats his young girlfriend in public. Not the black eye, not the broken nose, but the sense of being a fucking great human being.
Earlier today while I was waiting for the bus I witnessed a man walk up to his girlfriend, who couldn’t have been older than 18, kick her handbag, spit on her and scream in her face that she was a cunt. He walked back into the bus shelter after telling her she was worthless and pathetic and kicking her in the gut then as she tried to follow he turned around to grab her. I got in between them and told him that he should never EVER spit on a woman, hit her or talk to her in that way. He laughed in my face and said he would “fuck me up”. I looked him square in the eye and told him that I was not afraid of him. He proceeded to scream obscenities at her as I took her away from him, then he shouted to me that he could walk round the corner to get people to kill me. Feeling defiant, I said “go on, I dare you, there’re plenty of people around to witness it.” The prick then walked right up to me and head butted me in the nose. I am now sporting a swollen face and the beginnings of a black eye but the police took swabs from my nose to get his DNA and they know exactly who he is. Cunt’s going down for assault. Motherfuckers don’t treat women like that and get away with it. I feel heroic.
That’s right bitches. Women deserve respect.
Am I the only one who has an issue with this?
Okay. You stood up to that guy. That was good, and brave. That is not the problem here.
The problem is: Why are you so happy about it?
You just witnessed a woman be horribly hurt by someone she is in a close relationship with (I don’t know how you know that she was his girlfriend, and not, say, his ex, but I’ll assume you had some definite way of knowing this and operate under that presumption). You intervened, but even assuming that there really will be legal repercussions for this (which is by no means certain), it will presumably happen again (and the woman was still hurt, even though you stepped in). Her boyfriend may even take out his anger over what happened with you on her later on. You’ve become aware of someone who is in a nightmare situation, and yet you are smiling and happy about it. Why? Because you feel heroic.
You are making this about yourself, when it should be about her.
And I get it, I really do. You did something great, you were strong and courageous and stood up for honorable ideals, and you feel good about it. I understand that. It’s only natural.
But the question is: What is your focus going to be? It seems to me that your focus here is not “I just saw a horrific act of abuse, and I am horrified and disgusted by it, and I feel terrible about what this poor woman went through and in all likelihood will continue to go through”, and more “I fought back against this abuse, and I am awesome”. And you know what? What you did was awesome. But that’s not the point. The point is, why are you focusing on how great you feel about what you did, and not on the feelings of the victim in this situation - the person whose feelings, one would think, matter most of all?
How did this woman feel about any of this? Did she thank you for what you did, afterwards? Did she say anything to you? Or to the boyfriend? Did she have any thoughts or feelings about this at all? One would have to assume that she did, but I’d never know it, because your post doesn’t mention it at all. She’s barely present in your story. It’s all about you and her boyfriend. And I realize that that’s probably because she wasn’t saying much, and you don’t know what was going on in her head, but surely this is what really matters in the scenario? Did you stay with her afterwards and make sure she was alright? Did anyone? Where did she even go after this? We’ll never know, because apparently that just wasn’t what was important to you here.
Maybe I’m wrong, here. But don’t you think it’s just a tad insensitive to be quite so smiley and happy, when you’ve just seen someone so horrifically hurt? If she comes back in three months and she’s out of the abusive relationship and much happier because of your help, then sure, I can see happiness as the correct response here. But right afterwards? When she’s, as far as one can tell, still in the abusive relationship? Are you being empathetic towards her feelings, or are you only focusing on yours?
I know what it looks like I’m seeing, and I don’t like it.
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If I mistake you for a white person because of the way you talk to me or the manner in which you engage in discourse on race/racism…
Karla I love you.Pretty sure all it does is prove that one truly does make an ass out of his/herself when they assume.it says a lot more about you than it does me, trust.
what attributes make one a “white” person in the first place? What attributes make one “black”? And more so…. you know what? There are just too many things wrong with this post, I can’t even attempt to address it all…..
I really don’t understand how people can not understand how racist it is to talk this way.
Essentially… you’re saying you want to spread positivity about POC, but you want to define what it means to be a POC. It’s not up to every member of a certain race to define what that means to them, it’s only up to you to define.
You want POC’s voices to be heard, but only POC who happen to share your exact opinion.
I’m sorry, no. That is ridiculous. It is one thing to tell someone who’s white that they can’t understand an issue like a POC can because of privilege; but if you use the same argument on a POC just because you don’t like their opinion, all you are doing is silencing that POC. Which is enough of a problem already. That POC’s opinion is just as valid as yours.
The idea of condemning POC for being “too white” is just as problematic as condemning women/feminists for being traditionally feminine. You are trying to dictate what it means to be a woman/POC to someone who should have just as much right to define that for his or herself as you do.
If you truly want to overcome discrimination and oppression, you have to allow minorities to speak for themselves - and that means every member of the minority. Not just the ones who have the opinion you think is the “right” one.
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Interested in Romani “Gypsy” culture? Read all of this first!
(This was taken from my page over at thisisnotgypsy.tumblr.com. I have not been a good admin over there, because, frankly I am tired of explaining. When I become untired, I may begin posting again. I have to remember that it is not my job to educate anyone..but I do try, and it is exhausting.)
First and foremost: THE WORD “GYPSY” IS AN ETHNIC SLUR. It is a pejorative. It is an exonym that is hurtful and offensive. You need to accept this, period.
We are NOT your halloween costume.
We are NOT your flowy skirt.
We are NOT your fashion sense.
We are NOT your wanderlust.
We are NOT “boho.”Gypsy is not fashion
Gypsy is not traveling
Gypsy is not a headband
or a costume
or boho
or a long skirt
Gypsy is a hurtful ethnic slur used to refer to the Romani people.We are a real people, with traditions, culture, and colorful heritage that spans centuries.
Suggested Reading/Interested in Romani culture?
I decided it might be a good idea to put up a suggested reading list here. If youre interested in Romani culture, I highly suggest you read the following:
Dear Tattoo Artists (from this Tumblr)
“Gypsy” and Bohemian fashion. (from gadjedile.tumblr.com)
From gypsyappropriations.blogspot.com:
What its like to be a Gypsy: Crash Course
The Truth About Gypsy Life
The problem with the word Gypsy
…and pretty much every other article on this blog!Im sorry, but no you cannot, and never will you be. by biggadjeworld.tumblr.com
The Pariah Syndrome by Ian Hancock
Roma Persecution in Europe from Amnesty International
Wikipedias entry on Anti-Ziganism (anti Gypsy sentiment)
Aj-Rromale, a Tumblr Blog
(in the tags I have included some words in which I often see “Gypsy” grouped with in hopes of spreading knowledge to people who group these words together)
FUCKING THIS^^^^^
Seriously, everyone. Read this. This is so, so important.
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I’m serious guys. I will be here for everyone and anyone.Oh my god. This made me cry. Will you really be there for me?
to all my followers<3<3
To everyone & to anyone :)
I will ALWAYS reblog this. :)
this is so perfect. I love you all ok.
literally me.
/empathy to the max yo
Seriously. If you’re depressed, or suicidal, or struggling with anything, even little things, or something you think that someone else will find stupid, come talk to me. <3
guys, if you ever need someone to talk to i’m here. i’ve been through it all. i’ve tried to kill myself 9 times, cut for 3 years. i still have people that i talk to every time i get those bad thoughts and it really helps. i’m always here. <3
ALWAYS. No matter what guys, don’t be afraid to come to me.
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killthebloodyredprinceofdeath:
we ran out of plates
this can possibly be the greatest photo on tumblr.
This can possibly be the most disrespectful photo on Tumblr. I am not saying that you have to agree with what the bible says, but to utilize that book ‘as a plate’ knowing what it means to people, is just plain disrespectful.
It’s sad that people are so full of anger when it comes to religion, that they would rather post photos like this than deal with their hostilities in a more appropriate way.
i’m sorry, i cant hear you over the sound of nOT BEING ABLE TO GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THAT BOOK.
^ that comment
HOW CAN YOU BE DISRESPECTFUL TO SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T EXIST?
SHUT UP AND FUCKOG ENJOY THEFACT THERES PIZZA ON A BIBLE
According to the bible the appropriate way to handle the problems we have with religion would be wars and murders.
I think putting pizza on the bible is the least offensive thing…
Nikki, please don’t get angry at me for saying this, but if you honestly think that, I question if you’ve ever studied the Bible with a competent teacher. I assure you, the Bible is not encouraging us to solve our problems with wars and murders. Anyone who thinks so (and I’m not denying that they unfortunately exist), is guilty of serious misinterpretation.
And excuse me for asking this, but what exactly is good about this image? Is there something clever or funny that I’m not understanding? Some sort of punchline? It’s pizza, on a Bible, in a microwave. It’s not the most heinously offensive thing I’ve ever seen, but there doesn’t seem to be any purpose other than communicating that the person in question doesn’t like the Bible. Look, you don’t have to believe in it. I’m not here to push my beliefs on anyone. But yeah, you could at least be respectful of other people’s beliefs.
There is no excuse for people who use religion as an excuse to persecute others. But people have also been persecuted for being religious. And still are. My paternal grandparents lost almost every single member of their families in the Holocaust because they were Jewish. And maybe you don’t know this, but burning and degrading the Torah and other Jewish holy books? Has been a feature of anti-Semitic campaigns for over a thousand years. So, excuse me, yes, seeing this image bothers me. But you know what? I wouldn’t feel the need to comment if you didn’t feel the need to imply that I am somehow wrong for being bothered by this. That I’m being humorless and there is no valid reason not to “enjoy” this image (what exactly is so enjoyable, anyway? I feel like I’m still missing the fun part).
You know, I’m not particularly uptight when it comes to mocking religion. I can let some things slide in the name of a good joke. But this, frankly, isn’t even funny, and telling me that I should find it funny because the thing that’s really wrong here is the Bible itself is just completely dismissive and presumptuous.
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I still believe in heroes. Do you?
Countries in the Horn of Africa (Ehtiopia, Somalia, & Kenya) have been battling a severe hunger crisis due to drought, with thousands of people dying and hundreds of thousands fleeing to refugee camps for help. More than 9 million people are in need of help. These are real people suffering from the very real villain of hunger, thirst, disease, and death.
The Justice League and DC Entertainment have joined forces with Save the Children, International Rescue Committee, and Mercy Corps to form We Can Be Heroes and deliver aid to those who need it the most. DC Entertainment will also match all donations 100%.
To celebrate this humble blog reaching its next milestone in followers (thank you!), and in place of a giveaway, I’m going to follow in the footsteps of our favorite heroes and hold a reblog-for-charity of sorts, and I will be donating the money to We Can Be Heroes.
Here’s how it works:
- For every reblog and like, I will donate $0.05 USD. That’s 5 cents in US Dollars. Therefore, 1000 notes would equal $50.
- You definitely don’t need to be following me, although that would be awesome! (I’m mainly a DC blog)
- The deadline will be August 24, 2012 at 11:00 PM PST. I know it’s only a week, but I think we can definitely do it.
- I will be dedicating the donation to the DC Fandom on Tumblr.
- I will be making a minimum donation of $100 regardless of the number of notes this receives. There is also a maximum amount I will have to enforce (because I am only one person), but the notes will have to be substantially high for that to happen.
Here’s more information about We Can Be Heroes, including how the money is used and a chance for you to make a personal donation.
Thank you so much for following me, for supporting me, and for being a hero or heroine to the world we all live in :)
I thought I rebloged this ages ago, but, somehow, it seems I did not. So, if you haven’t already done so, please consider liking and reblogging (from Jncera’s blog!) this post. If you do you’ll be showing your love and support for both a good cause and a great person. :)
~DreamR
Wow, Jncera, that is incredible of you!! Everyone, please help out with this.
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I think we need to stop with this race, gender, sexuality privilege bullshit. Because, just like racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. it’s forcing guilt onto people for how they were born.
It’s not that guy’s fault he was born a middle class, heterosexual white…
Na, you’re so eloquent and all my Glee blogs are reblogging you. Look at you being smart and Tumblr famous :)
Reblogging because guys, were you aware that I am eloquent and smart and Tumblr famous?
… Yeah, me neither. But apparently I am! This is quite flattering.
All kidding aside, I’m just so happy that people seem to have liked my response to this post. These issues are so important and it can be tricky to address them properly, so if you guys think I’m doing a good job, it makes me hopeful that I’m helping to correct some misconceptions and spread understanding instead of ignorance.
(Someone even told the OP to check out my response, which they did. It doesn’t seem to have made much of an impression, but it did get them to clarify their opinion in less problematic terms, so that’s something, I guess?)
I think we need to stop with this race, gender, sexuality privilege bullshit. Because, just like racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. it’s forcing guilt onto people for how they were born.
It’s not that guy’s fault he was born a middle class, heterosexual white male. Don’t get mad at him for the fact society accepts him more than they accept you. Just because he’s white, straight, cisgendered, and male does not make him sexist, homophobic, racist, etc.
This privileged crap does not advance any group. It just makes the gap between the ‘normal’ and ‘different’ people larger and spreads more hate.
How about instead of making people feel like shit, you work on accepting everyone and informing and correcting those who have actually harmed or caused offense to someone.
I’m sick of “white privilege”, “male privilege”, or the disgusting term of cis scum.
Grow up. You want to be treated equal? You want respect? Have respect for everyone else and don’t blame them for what they can’t control. It runs both ways.
If people treat you like shit, then they’re assholes. It doesn’t matter if they’re straight, white, or WHATEVER. It just means they’re a horrible person. It has nothing to do with their color or gender or sexuality.
Okay, here’s the thing: The concept of privilege has nothing to do with hating people or making them feel guilty.
A person who hasn’t experienced something can’t claim to understand it the way someone who has experienced it can, correct? I think that’s a pretty basic concept. If I’ve never had cancer, I can’t claim to understand what people with cancer go through the way someone who suffers (or has suffered) from the disease can. And it would be pretty presumptuous of me to start lecturing cancer patients like I know what I’m talking about, right?
That’s what privilege is. If you’re white, you can’t understand racism the way people who have experienced it personally can. The same applies to sexism if you’re a man, and so on. You may well be a wonderful, non-racist, non-sexist person. No one is saying you’re not. But the fact is, you can’t claim to understand how certain groups are discriminated against if that’s never been a part of your life personally. Nobody’s asking you to feel guilty about it. Feeling guilty about it is, in fact, an entirely useless endeavor. It helps nobody. What you have to do is be aware of it. Be sensitive to the fact that there are people out there who have been persecuted and denied advantages that you have because of their race, gender, etc., and understand that when these topics come up, you need to listen to what they’re saying and be aware of the fact that you can only approach this issue from an outsider’s perspective.
That’s all.
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Reblog if you are always willing to help a follower in need. No matter who it is. Anyone can just message you.
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Suicide Alert: Please Reblog
ineedhelp1234 posted a suicide not on her blog. She intends to wait until she’s home alone again, so maybe we can stop her. Please try to contact her, send her encouraging messages or whatever you can to change her mind. We still have time.
Please reblog for signal boost.
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Someone just wrote and asked me why I hate Nightwing
Oh lord, I was afraid this would happen. Next I’m probably going to be getting messages asking why I’m in favor of sexual assault and why I support white supremacy.
INACCURATE DESCRIPTION MEME, people! Read the tags! That’s the only reason I wrote those things! I promise!
I WOULD NEVER EVER SAY THOSE THINGS IN REAL LIFE AND DICK GRAYSON IS MY PRECIOUS ADORABLE CIRCUS BOY AND THE BELOVED DARLING OF MY HEART.
LET ME BE 100% CLEAR ON THAT.
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